Good Friday – Easter Sunday 2019 Events

Good Friday

In her amazing book, ‘The Choice’ Edith Eger writes of her experience of survival having been imprisoned in a Nazi war-camp. A key part of her recovery was grief work. We all have our losses in life. Francis Weller describes five gates of grief which include, loss of someone/thing that we love, the places in us that have not known love, the grief of the earth, what we expected and did not receive, and ancestral grief.

This Good Friday, I am organising an event which will give you an opportunity to name, feel and express your grief in the company of others. We will do a slow walk around Mullaghmore Head in solidarity with one another, in silence, and in sharing our stories if we wish. This environment has unfortunately known a lot of suffering and loss. The wild Atlantic waves, the rocky beach, and the grassy fields will be our witness and source of healing. 

Please contact me by phone or email if you would like to take part. 

Meeting Point: Outside Pier Head Hotel.

Time: 2pm to 6pm

Cost: Thirty euro

Please dress appropriately for the weather on the day. 

Easter Sunday

For those of you who fancy an early start on Easter morning, you are invited to join me at Streedagh Beach to celebrate new life and new beginnings. We will meet at 6am and light a fire together. Then we will greet the big fire, namely the sun, which will arise to heat and welcome us around 6:20. The event will include time alone, time to be with what is being born in us at this time, time to celebrate the gift of wild nature and fellow humans. You are invited to bring along something for breakfast which will conclude our ritual at 8am. Over the years this event has proved so memorable, so energising and totally engaging. 
If you need further details please feel free to contact me. 

What do you want to say to the world?


WE celebrated Christmas in Newry this year at the home of my wife’s family. So where will I go to have Mass I asked myself in the days leading up to this great feast. I decided it would be Hilltown, the parish where i grew up, the big church overlooking Clonduff football field, a place where i spent many a happy, sad, wining and losing hour.

 

As the priest began the ceremony, the church was packed to overflowing and we were so fortunate to have a seat, I asked myself the question What would I like to say to this congregation tonight? Imagine having a captive audience, so alive  alert and full of anticipation, and being entrusted with an opportunity to welcome, enthuse and inspire them.

I had no idea!  The answer came to me the next afternoon, Christmas day. I sat on a seat reserved for soccer subs overlooking an empty pitch. I had the place to myself and wanted to write in my journal, a way that I have discovered to honour my soul.

“What a deep silence as i write this, yes some distant traffic interrupts the powerful serene presence of this special day, crows announce their arrival, a tractor and farmer bring Christmas cheer to a few captive cattle in a nearby yard with a grab of silage. Clouds drift harmlessly in a light grey sky, the green fresh grass continues to thrive in the unusual warm weather and the country air offers itself as another gift to me.

 

Fields of sport deserted of participants chuckle in quiet amazement at this older human, armed with his green and white copy book, blue pen and blue overcoat. He writes with enthusiasm and delight, trying to capture in words the experience of stillness and the magic of this moment. What a welcome guest. Surely we all love encouragement and praise!!”

Now i know what i would have liked to say to the packed house, I would like you to take some quiet time today in the midst of doing, working, playing , eating, drinking , laughing, crying and fighting , take some time to stop, notice, give thanks and praise. Sounds simple I know but does demand taking your slice of alone time, however short, however where.

If you found this interesting reading , perhaps stop now, look, listen, feel, smell a little and taste the gift of now.

 

What would you like to say to a packed congregation on Christmas eve 2019? Begin now to think about that and don’t wait a year!!

Listening to our Ancestor Stories

Listening to our Ancestor’s Stories
Accessing the gifts and healing the wounds of our inheritance

Tue. Sep. 11th. Evening – Sun.16th. 2018 till 1pm
(on ever ancient, ever new Achill Island, County Mayo)

Guides: Peter Devlin with Sheila McHugh

Cost: 690 Euro
This includes guide fee and five night’s accommodation: €200 non-refundable deposit secures a place. Numbers are limited to 10.  Book before 31st May 2018 to avail of early bird discount (€630).

Humanity is built on the bedrock of our desire to belong. That we are part of a particular family and family tree is an indisputable fact. How we are in this world, how we live, how we react to the events which life presents us with, and rear our children, is no doubt deeply influenced by the family and tradition we come from.

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Focusing – Finding the Wisdom Within

When: Sat. 26./ Sun. 27th. May 2018
Time:  10 – 4pm
Cost:  140 Euro

How often have you said ‘I know I should have listened to myself’ … but didn’t?  Most of us don’t know how to tune into those subtle, vague, mysterious, irrational ‘gut’ feelings that are hard to pin down and describe … let alone, understand. Focusing is a gentle yet powerful process of inner knowing.  It invites us to pay attention to body feelings and learn from them.

This weekend course will provide an introduction to the skills of focusing, which will help you gain clarity, peace of mind and peace of body.  Inner wisdom and emotional healing are two of the most important results of this skill.

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Blessing of a Parent

           

A Blessing from a Parent

May you believe in yourself,

Recognizing the beautiful gifts within yourself.

May you listen well to yourself and

To others.

 

May you have courage and encourage

Share stories, sense your surroundings

Avoid playing small, ignore the

‘not good enough’ voice, the being too good.

 

Be yourself, story tell, laugh, listen, love

Enjoy, entertain, engage with life

Accept yourself, be yourself, accept yourself

Protect, provide, plan your precious life.

 

I will be with you in some form

To love, learn and laugh with you

To gift, guide and go with you

To comfort, care and celebrate with you.

 

Let go, give yourself to life fully

Recognizing, feel and express your emotions

Anger as a power to respect yourself

Others and the planet.

Fear as a reminder to guard yourself

Sadness as acknowledgment of loss,

Joy as gratitude for the gift of life

Anger, crying a asserting respect.

 

Lead a life of gentleness and strength

Meeting pain as the pain of childbirth

Own your anger, express your fear,

Shed your tears, burst with laughter.

 

I am not perfect, I am sorry

I own my mistakes, I have learned

Thank you for being my child

I love you and the child within you.

Spring Soul Day

Spring Soul Day
A new Beginning with an opportunity to begin the Journey of Healing

Dates:     Sat. 17.2.2018   10am – 5pm
                Sun. 18.2.2018    9am – 4 pm
Venue:  North Sligo Area
Fee:     120 Euro for both days and 70 Euro for one day.
             Numbers will be limited to 8.       CDP Points: 14 

This two day event promises to be time well spent as participants will be invited to explore their natural gifts and resources they have as human beings, many of which they may not be aware of. Awareness of our resources provides us with natural ability to heal some of our wounds thus enabling us to begin to replace old routines with more healthy ways of being, positive habits of presence, self-encounter and mature action.

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I am enough, you know!

I am enough, you know!

UK study: Calls place modest fifth in phone time use

Dear Reader

Michael Singer was recently giving a presentation on a Sound True Production. And what he was saying about the mind being a beautiful and at the same time a dangerous thing really struck me. Essentially we humans have beautiful minds. Beautiful precious inner lives, which we keep well hidden at times.  It is generally the outer self one sees, a self often times well masked, manufactured and made up. In a desperate attempt to comfort and fit in and to impress the other.

My 11 year old son bought his first phone recently. He was probably one of the last of his lass to get a phone. The importance of connection and friendship and not being the odd one out, clinched for us the deal as parents.

In handing the phone to him, my prayer was, that this phone be used to develop and nurture healthy friendships, to encourage and affirm people and to spread good news, joy and laughter.

My hope was, that it would not be used as a means to desperately plea, that ‘I am good enough’. The mind can be a dangerous thing. It can construct, construe and convince me that I am not good enough, people do not like me. I need lots of followers, fans, approval and acceptance.

Nature Retreat: Nurture, Sustenance, And Overcoming Harsh Self-Criticism

Nature Retreat: Nurture, Sustenance and Overcoming Harsh Self-Criticism

 

Sat 18th and Sun 19th November

 

 

 If we will have the wisdom to survive,

To stand like slow-growing trees

On a ruined place, renewing, enriching it…

Then a long time after we are dead

The lives our lives prepare will live

Here, their houses strongly placed

Upon the valley sides, fields and gardens

Rich in the windows.

(Wendell Berry, “A Vision”)

Most of us desire to be happy and at peace, to be stress free and clear headed.  We wonder how to best care for ourselves in the midst of our busy lives, how to respond to our responsibility to care for the earth, how to be a good parent, how to nurture our relationships.

These central questions will form the basis of these two days spent in the tranquil peace-filed and wild surroundings of North Sligo.

On Saturday we will spend some time celebrating the lives of people who have nurtured and nourished us and may no longer be physically with us.  There will be time to give thanks to our environment for its protection and care, time to reflect on our generative qualities and consider how we can give to our relationships, and to the more than human world.

On Sunday we will move to a different venue and explore ways in which we adults live our lives using strategies to survive which belong to our own days of childhood.  These include the need to belong, to be safe, to be free from conflict, to fit in to the expectations of others.  Understanding ourselves, and discovering healthy ways of belonging, overcoming harsh self-criticism will be at the heart of this day.

Both days will include input, group sharing and time alone to experience ways of cultivating a more compassionate and genuine care of self, others, our relationships and this beautiful temporary home known as earth.

In the event of adverse weather conditions, we will move to a warm welcoming indoor venue.  Please dress in several layers and bring waterproof jacket and trousers if possible, and bring a notebook, pen, lunch and a hot drink.

Date: Sat 18th November 10am-5pm, Sunday 19th November 9am-4pm

Cost: 70 euro per day or 120 euro for the two days ( If possible please do both days for maximum benefit and group trust.)

CPD points:14

 

To secure a place, please send a deposit of 30 euro to Peter Devlin, Cloonaghbawn, Ballinful, Co Sligo before Monday 13th November.

For further information, please ring 0863663276 or email [email protected].

www.peterdevlin.ie

Autumn – Season of Harvest and Transformation.

 

 

Out beyond ideas of wrong doing and right doing,

There is a field. I’ll meet you there.

When the soul lies down in the grass,

The world is too full to talk about.

Ideas; language. Even the phrase each other

Doesn’t make any sense.

 Rumi.

Following on from the South Facet of self which we explored May 13 and 14, I would now like to invite you to spend two days with me and others looking at the West facet of Self which is characterized by words including romance, sunsets, sunrises and imagination. Writer and Wilderness Guide Bill Plotkin situates this dimension of our inner selves in the season of Autumn, the evening of the day, a time of dying and reaping the harvest.

This is the area of dreams, the place of change, transformation, mystery, decisions,   the underworld, the unknown, living with questions, moving into our inner life, into the interior world. As we journey together on this first day, we will tread carefully as we will be afforded deep access to the soul and to the Divine.

Just as the way of knowing in the South is feeling and emotion, the West uses our imagination, “Imago – Dei” as a way to discover our truth. The Divine is not known by reason. This is an opportunity to imagine a healthier way of living, to make contact with our innate creativity and hidden gifts.

Bill Plotkin reminds us that “Deep imagination is an indispensable faculty for discovering the truth about everyday life, no less essential than observing, thinking and feeling”

On Sunday we will explore areas of ourselves that we are unaware of and consequently are a barrier to living a more wholesome life. The term  the Shadow is often used in this context, sometimes we project our negative characteristics onto others and sometimes we disown our innate gifts and project them onto others. The poet and writer Robert Bly maintains that we spend the first part of our lives stuffing 90 per cent of our wholeness into the “long bag we drag behind us” and the remainder of our life trying to retrieve these items. It is not uncommon to find our deepest passion when we become aware of our Shadow. It might be as simple as a desire to write, sing or dance, gifts which may have been repressed in the interests of conforming to the expectations of family or society.

These areas will be further developed during the two days and participants will be given time, space and gentle listening as they go out into wild nature with specific exercises to experiment with. You will be encouraged to move with compassion and curiosity into your inner landscape, input will focus as well on how you can use your inner resources which you will have surfaced on the first day, to move forward with gentleness and strength.

 

The following information is taken from Bill Plotkins book “Wild Mind”

 

The Shadow is whatever is what’s true about who you really are, but you haven’t a clue about it.

Projection is the unconscious transfer of your own emotions, desires, or traits onto another person (your screen) or sometimes onto a whole class of persons.

Seeing scandalous flaws in others is a good place to investigate

Primary clue is the intensity of the emotional reaction you have to the other person

Sometimes what we project onto others is not our disowned characteristics but our unfinished relationship with the past.

In the basic form of shadow work, we get a chance to reflect on how we behave towards other people, withdrawing and owning our projections, seeing our stuff more clearly, taking great responsibility, improving our relationships and making them more real.

 

 Weather permitting both days will be conducted in the outdoors, enjoying the mountains and ocean of this beautiful environment. Wilderness informs us that wholeness is not about perfection. Both days will include input, solo time, and an opportunity to share when appropriate. The exercises we do can be then used to practice and continue to use when at home. Confidentiality is stressed and we will take solace that we are not alone in our human condition.

 

PLEASE DRESS IN SEVERAL LAYERS INCLUDING WATERPROOF CLOTHING AND GOOD BOOTS. Include lunch, a hot drink, a watch, notebook and pen in your ruck sack.

 

 

Venue:  North Sligo area.  The sessions will be conducted in beautiful wild areas of North Sligo. The intention is to spend one day in the shade of beautiful Ben Bullen and another in that magical, mysterious historical place known as Knock lane Promontory Fort. In the advent of terrible weather conditions, we will work indoors adjacent to my office. Fortunately we are only 10 minutes away by car from the intended venues. We will meet indoors initially.

 

Details:   Saturday 23 September 10am-5pm and Sunday 24 September 9am-4pm

              Cost 70 euro per day or 120 for the two days (If possible please do both days for maximum benefit and group trust.)

             C.P.D. Points :  14

              To secure a place please send a deposit of 30 euro to Peter Devlin, Cloonaghbawn, Ballinfull, Co. Sligo before Friday 15th September 2017.

              For further information please call 0863663276 or email [email protected]

              www.peterdevlin.ie